Saturday, February 23, 2008

NY State: Certificate of Birth Resulting in Stillbirth bill

If you live in NYS and i have your email you may have gotten this from me already if not here you go! a call to action from our home to yours. please support this Bill.

From the MISS foundation

The Certificate of Birth Resulting in Stillbirth bill is being considered by your New York State Senate and Assembly members right now.

The bill is moving quickly in both the Senate and Assembly.

Your representatives get to decide:

  • Do parents who gave birth to a stillborn child deserve recognition of the birth process?

They need to hear from you. They need to understand why this is so important to you -- as a mother, father or family member -- one who has suffered the tragedy of a stillborn child.

Write, call or email your Senator and Assembly member today (sample letter below). Forward this email to family, friends & coworkers and ask them to contact their representatives.

Who is your Senator?

Find your Senator

Who is your Assembly member?
Find your Assembly member

Contact them now. Ask them to support the Certificate of Birth Resulting in Stillbirth Bill.

Then, Please forward this email to everyone you know. Ask them for their help.

Your representatives need to hear from you. They want to hear from you on this issue.

Thank you.

[sample letter]

Name of Representative
Legislative Office Building
Albany, NY 12248

Re: Certificate of Birth Resulting in Stillbirth Bill

Dear _____:

I am writing to ask for your support of the Certificate of Birth Resulting in Stillbirth Bill (Hyer-Spencer). This legislation would allow parents whose children are stillborn the option to receive a Certificate of Birth Resulting in Stillbirth to acknowledge the birth process.

Your support of this legislation will send a message of hope and compassion to bereaved parents who suffer the devastation of a stillbirth.

[Include personal story, if you choose to]

Nearly 30,000 babies are stillborn in the US every year, making it the leading cause of infant death. In half of all cases there is no medically discernible reason, causing many to liken it
to an intrauterine SIDS. In fact, stillbirth kills more than eight times as many babies as SIDS every year.

Approximately 2,000 babies are stillborn in New York State annually, and for every stillborn a minimum of 10-20 people are affected. Thus, this issue impacts 20,000 - 50,000 individuals
every year in New York State.

These certificates will bring much needed attention to this issue and may be instrumental in uncovering stillbirth's mysteries, thereby saving precious lives.

You have the opportunity to enact legislation that has the potential to save lives and has zero cost implications.

Your community trust you to represent it. I urge your enthusiastic support of the Certificate of Birth Resulting in Stillbirth bill and will be following it closely.


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Friday, February 22, 2008

New Normal??

I haven't written in awhile as I feel like I'm in such a strange place, no words would really make sense of any of it. The whys still creep in and break my heart again and again. I'm finding it hard to look at any little girl now - not just the little babies anymore. It's almost impossible not to think of what should have been. I fight within myself not wanting to accept this new normal life - I don't want it, I want Alexandra here with me raising her to be a good little girl, playing with her Daddy and brother. We are a good family, kind and gentle to others, I can't understand why this would happen to us. I'm afraid Alexandra was the last chance I had to have a baby, a sibling for Tommy. My heart is broken and I feel my spirit is too.
Somedays Alexandra I miss you so much I wish I were in heaven just to be with you.
Hugs & Kisses Always my little Peanut. xoxox

Monday, February 4, 2008

1st Baby I've held since you Peanut

Sunday was the first day I held another newborn baby since I held you in my arms and told you how much I loved you and will see you again. I was so scared, as soon as I saw the baby in the room I started to cry. I just wanted YOU so bad! Even now the thought and aching of wanting and needing you brings me to tears.
You are a sneaky one I must say. When I asked you Sunday morning to give me the strength to see this baby, I wasn't expecting the sign I got!! How in the world does a little boy end up wearing the same outfit, that we put you in on the last day we would see you on this earth? Amazing. Thank you for the sign.
I remember picking that outfit for you thinking how cute it was, then going to buy a pink onesie to go with it. You looked soooo cute and cuddly, I don't know how they got me to walk out of that room without you.
You know I think about you everyday and I really am trying to be a good person so I can make you proud. I will see you again, I will hold you in my arms, rock you to sleep, kiss your face, kiss your belly & toes. I don't think I will ever put you down when I do see you again.
I ask every night to see you in my dreams, but you are busy playing right now. Make sure to come and see me Peanut Butter. I miss you so much and don't know how to express myself to you except having the heaviest heart and biggest lump in my throat.
All my Love, hugs & kisses